Having vaginal sex can be a sensual and exciting experience. But it’s important that both partners feel ready to proceed.
Foreplay such as stroking, kissing and holding can increase sexual arousal. Lubrication also makes sex more comfortable.
Many people need extra lubrication to reach orgasm. It’s fine to use lube – there are lots of different types.
Know Your Anatomy
During sexual intercourse, the penis passes through a small tube called the urethra. This tube opens into a small, fleshy area called the vagina. During sex, the hymen (a thin strip of tissue near the opening of the vagina) can stretch or tear. This can cause pain and bleeding. Using plenty of lubricant can help prevent this.
The female anatomy is complex and the outside of the vulva (the external genitals) can look different for each person. For example, the vulva may be hairy or smooth. The shape, size and particular arrangement of the vulva can also vary. This is a normal part of life and can change as a woman grows or during puberty, pregnancy or menopause.
The clitoris is another very sensitive part of the body and it can be rubbed during penetrative sex to create an erotic sensation for both partners. The clitoris is located just above the vulva opening and is full of nerve endings. Many women need to be stimulated with their clitoris to have an orgasm. Having an understanding of the anatomy can help ease anxiety about sexual intercourse for first-time sexual partners. A good knowledge of the anatomy can help you and your partner choose techniques for pleasure that work best for you. The key is to communicate and try out different things until you find what feels most pleasurable for both of you.
Whether it’s your first time or you’re experienced, there are a few things to consider. First, it’s important to practice safe sex. That means using condoms and practicing good hygiene. Keeping your penis and dildo clean reduces the risk of infections, such as yeast infections or urinary tract infections (UTIs).
It’s also a good idea to get some foreplay in before you start penetration. Foreplay can help stimulate the vagina and increase sexual pleasure. It can be as simple as stroking, sensual massages, or as elaborate as role-playing. In fact, many people report that more foreplay results in better orgasms.
Once you’re ready to begin, gently guide your penis or dildo into the vagina. This part may feel uncomfortable or awkward for some people at first. If you or your partner are experiencing pain, use extra patience and lubrication to ease into it. And always communicate with your partner.
When you’re ready to start penetration, find a rhythm that feels good for both of you and move at your own pace. If you want to speed things up, try a variety of positions to see what works best for both of you. You can even try a missionary position or doggy style, which can lead to climax. Some women also like to touch or rub the clitoris, which can stimulate it and give you an orgasm.
Go at Your Own Pace
The good news is, just like any other type of sex, vaginal sex can be done at a variety of speeds. Some women need time to get aroused and others don’t feel climax is necessary or even desirable. Those preferences can change over the course of a relationship or be specific to that moment.
Depending on what position your partner prefers, you may have to experiment to find what feels good for both of you. Especially when you’re using a dildo or a sex toy, you can start out by using one finger and move up to more as you become more comfortable. It’s also a good idea to practice masturbating with your partner before you have vaginal sex so that you know what turns you on.
Many women also find pleasure by stimulating the top wall of their vagina with different techniques. For example, squeezing the muscles of your pelvic floor and making circles can be arousing for some. Other women find it arousing to make the G-spot, or what OMGyes calls “the region on the front and top walls of the vagina,” into a kind of pleasure button. They can do this by stroking, kissing and licking.
Another technique, akin to the Kivin Method or horizontal oral, involves rubbing the vulva with the pads of your fingers and then spreading them. This gives wider and thicker pressure to the clitoris, and can lead to orgasm quickly.
Having vaginal sex can feel very intimate and sensual, but it can also be a lot of fun. It’s important to communicate with your partner and to let them know what you like, or don’t like, about sex. This will help both of you have a more enjoyable experience.
For example, if you don’t like feeling your partner rub their clitoris during penetrative sex, it would be good to let them know. It’s also helpful to talk about foreplay. It’s an essential part of sexual pleasure, and it can make you both aroused before putting a penis in the vagina or anus. Foreplay will also get your partner’s anus and vagina wet, making sex easier.
Vaginal sex is a form of penetrative sex that involves a penis or sex toy being inserted into a woman’s vagina, mouth, or anus for sexual pleasure and reproductive purposes. It can be done in different positions, including missionary and doggy styles, which can lead to orgasm and ejaculation.
It’s important to remember that sex should never feel painful and you should always speak up if it does. It’s also worth knowing that you can withdraw consent at any time, even during the sex act itself.