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Why Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex After Baby

A lot of new parents find their sex drive takes a hit after baby. This is normal.

It can take 1-3 months for interest in sex to return to pre-pregnancy levels, but it’s important to talk about your expectations and experiences with your partner so you both know what’s happening.

1. He s afraid of hurting you

Many new mums feel like they should want sex after baby. But if you and your husband have different expectations for intimacy, that can be a big problem.

If he isn’t interested in having sex with you, he may be worried about hurting you or your child. He might also be afraid of losing you or not being able to provide for your family. This is a difficult thing for any new parent, but it’s important to talk about it with your partner.

It’s not uncommon for new mothers to have a low libido, especially during the fourth trimester (the time right after pregnancy). The hormones of breastfeeding can depress a woman’s desire. They might also be tired, and if they were tummy-suckered during the birth, they may still have pain. Many women also associate sex with pregnancy, and they don’t want to risk falling pregnant again.

Add to that the fact that most men feel a lot of anxiety when their wives are pregnant, and it’s no wonder they lose interest in having sex. However, this doesn’t have to be permanent. Many couples find that once the baby is born, their sexual desires return – although it’s normal to take some time to get there. The important thing is to have open conversations with your partner and try to come up with other ways to enjoy each other’s company, such as cuddling or going for a walk together.

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2. He s worried about your health

Often, new moms aren’t interested in sex because of how they feel about their bodies. They may have lost a lot of weight during pregnancy, they may have stretch marks, they may not be comfortable with their bodies in intimate ways or they may feel that they’re just not as attractive anymore. They might also feel that they are not sexually desirable to their husband.

And that can be really frustrating for the both of them. Especially because it can be easy to assume that your husband doesn’t love you or isn’t attracted to you because he’s not making time for sex. But the truth is, it’s usually not that simple.

Psychotherapist Frank Hayes, who specializes in working with expectant and new parents, explains that men find it hard to reconcile their roles as both parent and partner when their libido drops after birth. It’s a normal part of recovery for both women and men to take some time out of their sexual lives after having kids.

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So if your husband isn’t interested in sex, don’t take it personally. It’s likely not about you or him and it will get better if both of you agree to make time for intimacy. Put it on your to-do list together – maybe after the laundry or cleaning the bottles, and try not to let work or baby stuff get in the way. And most of all, be patient – most couples are able to find their sex groove again after the baby comes.

3. He s tired

One of the most obvious signs that your man is tired of you is if he starts getting angry at little things. He may also be showing signs that he is starting to think about other people. This could be because he is seeing someone else or because he has lost faith in the relationship.

Another sign that your husband is tired of you is if he doesn’t seem to remember important dates. This can be frustrating, especially if you feel that he used to care about these events. He might be ignoring you because he is tired of your complaints or because he doesn’t want to put in the effort.

If you are concerned that your husband is tired of you, it might be a good idea to see a therapist together. This can help you both understand what’s going on and get the relationship back on track. A therapist can also teach you some tips on how to talk to your husband when he’s tired of you. This can help you avoid putting blame on him or accusing him of things that he might not even be aware of.

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4. He s busy

Many men are not able to find the time for sex after their babies arrive. They may feel as if they are spending every spare moment on the new baby, cleaning house, and taking care of their other children. This can cause a drop in libido and make it difficult for them to find the time to have sex.

This isn’t to say that your husband doesn’t love you or doesn’t want to be intimate with you. In fact, the opposite is often true. He just doesn’t have the time or energy to do it any more. He is busy and he needs to focus on his family’s needs.

It can be frustrating for a wife to feel that her husband isn’t interested in sex after baby. However, there are usually good reasons for his lack of interest. It may not be something that can be resolved overnight, but it is important to keep communication lines open. This will help to prevent resentment and other problems in your marriage. Remember to be patient and kind, even when things get stressful.