Everyone’s cervix is different, so cervical stimulation can feel different for each person. It can range from dull or aching pain to painful cramps.
In general, hitting the cervix during sex should feel good as long as you have sufficient arousal and there’s plenty of lube. To increase your arousal, try foreplay and extra caressing.
What is the cervix?
Your cervix is the lower, narrow end of your uterus that opens during childbirth and allows fluids to flow inside and out of your womb. It also protects the entrance to your vagina and the genital canal from germs and foreign substances, including the period blood that you shed every month as part of your menstrual cycle. You can feel your cervix by inserting one or two clean fingers (or a fingernail, but only if it’s been properly cleaned) into your vagina. It feels like a tiny doughnut with a small dimple in the middle and can feel hard or soft, open or closed, depending on where you are in your menstrual cycle.
Many people find that stimulating their cervix (i.e., touching it with their finger or sex toy) gives them pleasure and can lead to orgasms. But not everyone does, and it’s totally OK if this kind of stimulation isn’t for you.
To check your cervix, gently put your index finger into your vagina. You can do this while you’re sitting on the toilet, squatting, or standing with your leg up on the bathtub. If you’re having trouble finding your cervix, try using lubricant to help your finger slip in easily. Wash your hands first to prevent introducing bacteria into your reproductive system, and be sure to practice this self-exam in the same position and at the same time each day so you can get used to how your cervix feels.
How does it feel?
If you hit your cervix during sex, it may hurt a lot or a little, depending on how badly it was injured and what caused the trauma. Bruising of the cervix is usually caused by vigorous sexual activity that includes penetration from a penis, dildo, or fist. It can also be aggravated by certain sexual positions, such as doggy style or woman-on-top. Bruising can also be caused by lack of lubrication, which makes it harder for a penis or other object to reach the cervix.
The cervix is made up of delicate tissue that can easily get irritated and bruised when it’s stimulated improperly or by too much pressure. This is why it’s important to take it easy and work up to more intense sensations during sex. It’s also important to make sure you’re fully aroused before engaging in any type of sexual activity.
You can check the location of your cervix by inserting the first finger of one hand into your vagina and aiming it down towards the front. If you can’t feel your cervix with your finger, you have a low cervix. On the other hand, if you can only feel it with your pointer finger, you have a high cervix.
What can I do if it hurts?
A bruised cervix can feel differently for everyone. It can cause pain inside the body, spotting outside the body (like your period), or both. If the injury is severe, you might have back or abdominal pain as well. The intensity of the pain will depend on how bruising occurred, your tolerance for pain, and other factors like your diet, exercise, and your stress level.
The good news is that a cervix bruise doesn’t mean you can’t have sex. You just need to be careful. The cervix is fragile and it can be injured by vigorous penetrative sex or deep penetration with a penis or dildo. Certain sexual positions, such as doggy style, can increase the risk of hitting the cervix because they allow for deeper penetration.
If you are concerned about your cervix hurting during sex, talk with your partner and try to find a way to make it feel better. It might be as simple as experimenting with different sexual positions, or adding lubrication to your sex routine. But if the problem is recurring, it might be worth seeing a nurse or doctor — especially if you’re experiencing painful pelvic pain, frequent bleeding, or abnormal vaginal discharge. They can check for signs of cervical cancer or other conditions that may be causing your pain. If you have cervical cancer, they can also help you with treatment options.
What should I do if I bruise my cervix?
Bruising your cervix can be painful. But you don’t need to worry, as it is usually a temporary condition. A bruised cervix typically heals on its own within a few days and won’t affect your fertility. Taking a break from penetration and abstaining from sexual activity until the bruising goes away is a good idea to let your cervix rest and heal. You can also take over-the-counter painkillers to help manage the bruising.
Bruises are not uncommon during sex, especially for women who engage in rough or vigorous penetration with a penis or dildo. This is because the average vaginal canal is only about two and a half inches deep. Repeated deep penetration can cause trauma at the cervix opening, leading to a bruising sensation. Women with shorter vaginas or who are trying to conceive may be more prone to cervix injuries.
Another common cause of a bruised cervix is not being aroused enough before penetration. Using a lubricant can help, as can spending time on foreplay and getting turned on. It’s also important to avoid certain sexual positions, such as doggy style, as these can make it more difficult for the cervix to bend to allow penetration.