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Masturbation – 3 Ways to Satisfy Your Sexual Needs

Getting in touch with our own eroticism is a huge turn-on. It’s also a great way to reach orgasm without waiting for someone else to do it with.

To start, get naked and rub yourself all over. Then slowly start touching erogenous zones, like the anal canal and the clitoris.

1. Masturbation

Masturbation involves touching your own genitals or other sexually sensitive areas of the body for pleasure and arousal. It’s normal, safe and common among people of all genders, races and backgrounds and is an important part of sexual health. It also helps to reduce stress and depression. It’s a natural way to express your sexuality and can be done alone or with a partner. There is no risk of pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections from masturbation (provided you clean your toys after use).

Some people experience a form of compulsive masturbation called hypersexuality or sex addiction, which can cause feelings of shame and guilt even if the behavior is occasional. If masturbation becomes excessive, consider talking to a therapist who specializes in sexual health.

Some cultures and religions discourage masturbation and can lead to shame or guilt for engaging in self-pleasure. For children, it can be helpful to explain that masturbation is a private behavior that should take place in a private location like the bathroom. If your child masturbates too much, talk to a counselor or therapist who can help them decrease the amount of time they spend masturbating and find other activities to replace it with.

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2. Sex Toys

For those who like to take pleasure into their own hands (or feet), sex toys are a great way to go. Whether you’re into a classic rabbit vibrator, or something kinkier and more adventurous like the spiky Wartenberg wheel (also known as a clitoral pinwheel), there are tons of options out there to help you satisfy your needs. Just be sure to always use sex toys with caution and never insert them into your body (unless you have a medical or sensory fetish).

With the wide variety of sex toys on the market, it can be easy to get overwhelmed when trying to find the right one for you. For example, a quick search of the long-running erotic emporium Babeland yields 715 results for vibrators alone. But don’t let the selection scare you away — with so many different sizes, shapes and textures to choose from, there’s really something for everyone.

And sex toys aren’t just for solo pleasure, as they can also be fun to explore in couple(s) play. Just be sure to start with some reassurance, and broach the subject of sex toys in the context of fun, playful conversations so your partner isn’t afraid to try them out. Plus, for LGBTQIA+ folks, sex toys can help make pleasure more accessible, and even help to combat dysphoria around sexual health.

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3. Internal Stimulation

A woman can use internal stimulation to find arousal without relying on fantasies and pornography. It’s important for a gal to know her own body and all its pleasure points – especially the ones that are often overlooked, like the inner lips, clitoris and G-spot, which can give the biggest orgasms (and lead to ejaculation).

Sit in front of a mirror with a tube of lube and start by caressing your nipples, outer lips, belly button and vulva, while paying attention to what turns you on. Then move on to your anal opening and the clitoral ridge, which feels most pleasurable when rubbed with the fingers or a sex toy – this can feel like a clitoral penetrative massage.

Many females experience vaginal dryness that can deter arousal, which is why using a lubricant is essential during masturbation. Adding a little more foreplay can also increase arousal during masturbation.

It may take time to find what pleasures your inner vaginal canal. You may need to play with varying pressure, from light to heavy – and even the type of motion. It’s also important to touch and stimulate all of your erogenous zones, not just the anal area – stroking your neck or shoulders, for example, can turn you on, too. Some women find that stroking their clitoris and G-spot with their fingers or a sex toy produces the most pleasure during solo play, while others feel it’s more effective to stimulate the anal canal with a sex toy and their fingers.

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4. External Stimulation

When it comes to masturbation, we often think of using our hands, or sex toys. And these are great tools, but there are so many other ways to explore your body and layer pleasure. Touch your nipples, play with your ears or inner thighs, or even rub your clitoris – this is all external stimulation that can turn you on and help build up pleasure in different areas of the body that aren’t normally stimulated in sexual activity.

Try sitting in front of a mirror with a tube of lube and explore the erogenous zones on your body. Pinch, squeeze, pull, lick, poke and rub your nipples and other feel-good zones on the body, like the belly button or vulva. Playing with these areas that aren’t normally stimulated in sex can make for an exciting, new experience.

It’s a good idea to use a safe lube, such as aloe vera or jojoba oil. Then, sit down and take some time to focus on the sensations you’re feeling throughout your body. Remember to breathe deeply, and don’t rush yourself. Many people find that masturbation is more enjoyable when they do it in a quiet, private place, where they won’t be interrupted. And if orgasm doesn’t happen right away, that’s okay too. The more you practice, the closer you’ll get to figuring out what turns you on.