Lucid dreams occur during rapid eye movement (REM) sleep, which is characterized by sexual arousal. As a result, people often report having sexual interactions with dream characters that feel very real and orgasmic.
For deeply inhibited people, lucid dreaming may be an opportunity to explore sexual bliss in a less constrained environment. However, the experience is not without its challenges.
It Feels Real
When you have sex in a lucid dream, it feels almost as real as in real life. Your brain can simulate any sensation, so whatever you imagine it will feel real. It may seem frivolous, but for people who are bedridden or have debilitating illnesses, this can be a powerful experience that helps them reconnect to their bodies and the feelings they’re capable of.
If you’re new to lucid dreaming, it might take a while for your sexual fantasies to come true. However, the more practice you have, the better. It’s best to start by practicing non-intimate activities such as kissing, stroking and caressing the dream character before going all out with sex. You also want to ensure that you’re stable in your dream and that you have done the appropriate reality checks. It’s easy to get overexcited and accidentally wake up before you’ve fully commenced your dream.
Having sex in your dreams is a fun and exciting way to explore your erotic fantasies. But don’t forget that it’s not as safe as having sex in the waking world. You could contract an STI or even end up pregnant, which is something you should consider before you decide to go all in. It’s also important to remember that dream characters are often unconscious projections of your own psyche and that they may not necessarily have your best interests at heart.
It Feels Like Real Orgasms
Many people find sex in their lucid dreams to feel a lot like real orgasms. This can be a great thing, especially for virgins who have never experienced the sensation in real life. It can also be a way for people who are in long-term relationships to explore their erotic fantasies without causing any problems with their waking partners.
Lucid dream sex is fun and exciting, but it’s not always easy. You might lock-on to a dream partner and try to get it started, only for them to deny you, turn into something unappetizing or just fade away before you can touch them. This is because the experiences in lucid dreams are largely determined by our own expectations.
As a result, it’s a good idea to have another lucid dream goal in the back of your mind in case your erotic fantasy fails. For example, if the dream character you are trying to have sex with isn’t interested in sex, you might want to refocus your intention on getting to know them or even making them a friend.
You should also remember that sex in lucid dreams can lead to over-excitement, which can sometimes wake you up. This is why it’s important to speak out loud about your intention and perform regular reality checks when you are having a lucid dream.
It Feels Like Real Sex
While lucid dreaming can be fun and exciting, it’s also incredibly intimate. The sensations of sex in a lucid dream can feel just as real as they do in the waking world, which makes it a pretty incredible experience. If you want to have sex in a lucid dreams, it’s important to create a connection with your desired sexual partner. This is important because most dream characters, especially those who want sex, function as meaningful representations of parts of your inner self. Treating them like nothing more than a sexual object will only cause your lucid dream sex to fail.
Fortunately, most people find that once they’ve developed a connection with a desirable dream figure and initiated sex, it can be very satisfying. This is because the physical sensations of lucid dream orgasms are actually quite real, as demonstrated by LaBerge et al in 1983. Having sex in a lucid sleep can also provide you with an opportunity to explore your own sexual desires, particularly if you’re currently in a relationship or are unsure about your sexuality.
This can be an empowering experience, as it allows you to indulge in your sex fantasies without risk of sexually transmitted diseases or hurting someone else’s feelings. In fact, many lucid dreamers who regularly engage in sex in their dreams report that it helps them feel more confident and comfortable in the bedroom in real life.
It Feels Like Real Love
Having sex in a lucid dream can be intensely sensual, but also very emotional. This is especially true for a virgin, who will experience sex that combines their memory of real life sex with the way they expect it to feel. The result is a mixture of love, lust and fear. This is why it’s so important to keep an open mind, and go with the flow. Rushing beyond what a sexual partner is preprogrammed to be comfortable with may cause the experience to turn sour, or even lead to a terrifying transformation.
Scientific research has confirmed that orgasms in a lucid dream are accompanied by real physical responses, including increased heart rate and changes in blood pressure and vascular tissue. Some people have even reported ejaculation from a lucid dream orgasm. But you should be very careful, because it’s easy to wake yourself up before the orgasm has a chance to kick in.
For some, acting out their sex fantasies in a lucid dream is a path to healing, especially for deeply inhibited individuals. It can teach them to express their sexuality freely in waking life, which can help them build healthy relationships and boost confidence. And for others, lucid dream sex can be a lot of fun, and one of the most memorable experiences they can have in their lives.