A menstrual cup is a bell-shaped container made of silicone, latex or rubber that replaces tampons. It’s inserted into the vagina and collects your flow.
It’s not recommended for people to have period sex with a Diva cup in, as it could break the seal and create leaks. Also, it might be uncomfortable for both partners.
How to Get Started
Menstrual cups are small, flexible “cups” that get inserted into the vagina to collect menstrual blood (as a replacement for tampons or period panties). They can stay in place for up to 12 hours and don’t need to be changed frequently. Many women report that having sex with a cup is more comfortable than using tampons or pads, and can lead to more intense orgasms.
The answer to whether or not you can have sex with a diva cup depends on your comfort level and that of your partner. It’s best to start off slow and work your way up. A new experience can be intimidating, so it’s important to communicate with your partner and try out different positions to see what feels right for both of you.
You should also try out oral sex or clitoral stimulation with your diva cup on to get comfortable with the sensation. This will help you relax and connect with your partner while also breaking taboos about sex on your period.
Some people worry that the guy might feel a menstrual cup during sex but this is typically not a problem. The cup is a lot farther up the vagina than a penis or sex toy so it’s usually not felt, especially during missionary position or doggy style. If the cup does end up getting pressed against the glans or pee hole then you can always trim the stem of the cup to make it more bendable.
Penetrative Sex with a Menstrual Cup
While menstrual cups have a lot of benefits, like mess-free period sex, some people worry about how they can safely be used during penetration. The answer, however, depends on the type of cup you use.
Reusable menstrual cups are not designed to be worn during penetrative sex, Gunter says, because they sit lower in the vaginal canal than disposables, right below your cervix. During penetration, this could cause the guy’s member to push against the stem and get stuck or blocked—which would be unpleasant for both of you.
But, she adds, you can have sex with menstrual cups that are specifically made to be safe for penetration. She points to Intimina’s Ziggy Cup, a flat menstrual cup that looks and feels like a diaphragm, but doesn’t leak or break down during sex. It’s a great option for women who want to experience all of the fun of penetrative period sex without the mess.
Other options include menstrual discs, like the Diva Disc and the Flex, which are designed to be worn higher in the vaginal fornix, just behind your pubic bone. This design allows them to be easily inserted and removed, as well as helps the cup hold in more blood for longer so you can have sex for more time. However, even with these higher-positioned menstrual cups, it is important to note that they do not protect against pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections, so you should always use a condom when having sex.
Penetrative Sex with a Menstrual Disc
If you’re open to exploring pleasure during your period and want a more natural alternative to tampons, consider menstrual discs. These insertable period products can provide hours of protection and are made to handle heavy flows. They can also help reduce cramps and are said to feel just like tampons during sex.
The best way to have sex with a menstrual disc is to have anal or vaginal penetration with a partner who’s familiar with using them. It’s important that you get the right size, too. To get started, you can fold the disc up and back to make it the size of a tampon, then push it in and up so that the front rim tucks behind your pubic bone. You can then hook a finger underneath the rim to remove it.
During penetrative sex, it’s possible that your menstrual disc might shift, move higher up in the vagina, or leak a bit if it’s not removed properly beforehand. But it shouldn’t cause any discomfort for you or your partner.
Another thing to keep in mind is that a menstrual cup is not a contraceptive and it’s possible to get pregnant even if you use a reliable method of birth control, such as the pill or condoms, with it. If you’re concerned about pregnancy, talk to your doctor before trying this method of protection during sex.